My Favorite Children's Authors

This week is Children’s Authors and Illustrators Week. Before having my kids, I think I could probably identify one children’s author by name. Dr. Seuss. I always saw the books as individual works until I started reading 2-3 a night and became a bit of an expert. Now, I’ve found there are children’s authors who I go back to over and over again for engaging stories and beautiful words.  

Mo Willems My absolute favorite children’s author (excluding Dr. Seuss of course), Mo Willems’s stories hilariously capture the frustration of a pigeon constantly being told what it can’t do. Obviously, most kids can identify. We are also huge fans of his Elephant and Piggie series. The first time I read There’s A Bird On Your Head I thought Griffin was going to faint he was laughing so hard. To this day, it’s the hardest I’ve ever seen him laugh.

Ann Dewdney Our family loves any story that begins llama llama. Hooked since the little llama was wearing red pajamas, we’ve followed Dewdney and her little llama through the store, the first day of school, and beyond. I think Dewdney is particularly adept at handling conflicts between parents and kids with sympathy and understanding for both sides.

James Dean The voice behind the indomitable Pete the Cat, Dean perfectly conveys this funky little cat’s can-do spirit be it on the playground or in a mud puddle.

Doreen Cronin The only character that can make Griffin laugh harder than that crazy pigeon is the ever-scheming Duck of Cronin’s barnyard stories. 

Who are your favorite children’s authors? 


Accusations of Intolerance

Recently, my stepfather and I were having a discussion about Phil Robertson and the Duck Dynasty controversy. He expressed disgust with some of Robertson’s remarks but also told me he felt that Christians were often called intolerant for upholding the tenants of their religion.

I understood his point. Many of you know that I was raised Southern Baptist and for most of my adolescence was a devoted evangelical Christian. I remember feeling persecuted for my beliefs during that time in my life. I always felt like I was on the losing end of the culture wars and that no matter what I did or what I said I would always be the outcast who wasn’t having sex before marriage or who would prefer reading her Bible to late night partying.

Of course, in reality, it doesn’t take much to make a teenager feel persecuted and I realize now that often people took real issue with my beliefs but never singled me out merely because of my identification as a Christian.

Will personal choice end the mommy wars?

If you’ve been on Facebook recently you’ve probably seen these photos. Connecticut Working Moms launched a photo series entitled “End the Mommy Wars” in which mothers with “warring” ideas are photographed together with placards representing the two sides. The idea being that we can all peacefully coexist and there’s no reason to judge one another.

It’s a really nice thought. At the risk of sounding a bit like George W. Bush, being a mother is HARD. Every day there seems to be endless ways to screw your kids up and get it all wrong. The guilt-ridden voices inside your own head are enough to deal with without the judgmental voices on the street or the playground adding to the cacophony.

However, I’m not sure that the answer to the “mommy wars” is embracing every parenting decision as an individual choice.

Fun (and educational) Snow Day Activities

Between the polar vortex and winter storm currently reeking havoc across the Midwest, families are facing many more snow days than they expected. Movies and board games only get you so far before you and the kids begin pulling your hair out. Try some these instead!

1. Snow Experiments There is lots to be learned about snow. From temperature to climate, take this chance to teach your kids about what temperature things freeze or how quickly depending on the item. Not to mention, there are fun things to make from snow ... like snow cream! Here's a roundup of other experimental ideas!

2. Snow Flake Comparison We all know every snow flake is unique but there's nothing like a snow day to really explore the magic of snowflakes in depth. Take a dark sheet or dark piece of paper outside with a magnifying glass. Have your little one capture snowflakes and compare and contrast their differences. 

3. Snow Library Collect all your winter-themed books and have a frosty read in. Ezra Jack Keats's The Snowy Day. Caralyn Buehner's Snowmen at Night. We all have a few snowy classics on our bookshelves. OR you could switch it and find all your books featuring sunshine and warm sunny days to warm you on on a cold snow day. If you'd like to explore some classics on the screen, this a great roundup of movies and shows available streaming online based on children's classics. 

4. Selective Screen Time Not all screen time is bad! There are a ton of amazing websites that offer learning resources like Khan Academy where your child can learn for free about math, art, computer programming, economics, physics, chemistry, biology, medicine, finance, history, and more! If your child is interested in computer science, Codecademy is a great place for them to start exploring that passion in more detail. 

What are your favorite snow day activities? Any classic wintery books you'd like to share? Leave a comment!


My Happiest Memory from 2013

Last year Nicholas and I celebrated ten years of marriage. Believe me when I saw a decade of marriage to this man is worth celebrating so we had our family and friends over for a small ceremony in our front yard and a big party in our backyard. It was such an incredibly evening and is one of my happiest memories from 2013.

My amazing friends at Emerging Media Products put together this video for us, which includes the vows Nicholas and I wrote for each other. I can't watch it without crying and I hope you enjoy it (maybe without the tears).


6 Things I've learned from watching The Good Wife

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I've been watching The Good Wife -  A LOT of The Good Wife. I'm over on Salt & Nectar sharing my thoughts on this fantastic series.

Great minds think alike. Great minds also apparently engage in simultaneous binge watching. While The Other Sarah has been soaking in the Shakespearean melodrama of Sons of Anarchy, I’ve been catching up on The Good Wife. By catching up, I mean I’ve watched four seasons in about week. (Don’t judge! I’ve been sick!)

I’ve loved every second of getting to know Alicia Florrick and the cast of characters at Lockhart/Gardner. This show has taken the fascinating premise of a political spouse standing by her disgraced husband and turned it into so much more. 

Of course my hours of television weren’t a complete loss. I learned several valuable lesson from these fabulous characters.

Life is full of gray. Alicia is constantly encountering situations that are a choice between something wrong and something else wrong. In other words, just like real life. Real life isn’t a choice between easy black and white choices. Life is full of gray where you just have to pick the choice that is the least offensive. 

Dress for the occasion. Alicia and all her cohorts are always dressed to the nines. I’m not saying a new Ralph Lauren suit every day is in the cards for most of us but putting on your fanciest attire can help all of us get through the toughest of situations. 

Marriage is a commitment. This is perhaps my favorite aspect of the show (by the way only to Season 4 – NO SPOILERS!). I love that the Florrick marriage is complicated, hits stops and starts, and has gone through its share of trials. Yet, it still stands. Alicia doesn’t even seem to know herself why she is still married and I find this to be the most realistic aspect of all. Sometimes we stay. Sometimes we commit. Not for a single simple reason but for a million complicated ones. 

Religion is complicated. I absolutely love the way this show deals with religion. No grand ideologies or strong stances. Just characters having honest discussions with those they love about what they believe. 

When in doubt, throw some shade. Sometimes I think this show should be called The Good Eyebrow because WOWZA are there some raised eyebrows and stern looks going around. Alicia, Diane, even Eli can give looks that stop even the coldest killer in their tracks. Really, sometimes that’s all you really need.

Be Kalinda. Ok, I’m still working on how to actually transform myself into a fictional character. I hope to have it figured out by the end of Season 5. Stay tuned. 

Are you a fan of The Good Wife? Let me know!


Emily Oster's Expecting Better

I should have been in an economist. All my favorite books are written by economists. I love the data driven approach to problem solving and I generally find them a funny, personable group. 

I'm now adding Emily Oster to my list of favorite economists and Expecting Better: Why the Conventional Pregnancy Wisdom is Wrong - and What You Really Need to Know to my list of favorite pregnancy books. 

Pregnancy advice - both that found within books and in the doctor's office - often seems based on little more conjecture and anecdotal guessing. And that's assuming it stays the same, which it often doesn't. One day coffee is ok. The next it isn't. One day home birth will kill your baby. The next day not so much.

Oster approaches each recommendation and pregnancy decision with deliberation and data. However, as a mom herself, she also brings a particularly personal approach as she shares her own decision-making process and tells the story of her first pregnancy. 

I learned so much while reading her book, despite going through two pregnancies and considering myself a bit of an expert. For once and for all, runny eggs and sushi are ok! YIPEE! There is ZERO evidence bed rest is helpful. (!?!?) Any toxins you encounter during the two weeks between conception and your missed period have no effect if your pregnancy goes to term. THAT information would have saved me a lot of anxiety with my first two pregnancies. 

Oster also addresses the process of labor and delivery. As a passionate advocate for natural birth, I was happy to see Oster ultimately decided on natural birth after assessing the data. Although, I was disappointed that she neglected to address water as a natural pain remedy because I found it to be an incredibly effective pain relief method in my first birth (especially as compared to my second birth outside the water).

I was also happy with Oster's analysis of home birth risks. She seems to do a fair and reasonable assessment of the studies and concludes the risks are low. One small issue I had is she seems to make the same mistake many people do when assessing the risk of serious complications during a home birth, which is ignoring the fact that serious complications could also arise in a hospital. Medical errors are real. Antibiotic resistant infections are real. The risks of these complications are small but so are the risks of having a life-threatening complication at home and not getting to the hospital in time.

My last small criticism also (not surprisingly) has to do with my own experience. Oster puts a great deal of emphasis on the training of one's midwife, eventually concluding that a certified nurse midwife is the best choice over a direct entry midwife due to training. I would argue one should not completely ignore experience. A direct entry midwife that has successfully attended 300 births is an infinitely better choice than a certified nurse midwife with fewer than 50 births under her belt. The training is absolutely an asset but experience should be an important factor to consider. 

My small criticisms aside I found Oster's book to be empowering. Far from the condescending tone taken in most pregnancy books, she offers up the facts and encourages women to make up their own minds. Good advice, indeed.

What's your favorite pregnancy book? Any pregnancy advice you'd loved to have debunked!?!